…Practical advice on finding a connection with who you are, what you're about and what a good death means to you as you grow inwardly and age outwardly.
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IR Verdict: THE NEW ART OF DYING is a useful, concise, and practical guide, which offers useful information about making end-of-life decisions in a thoughtful and informed manner, and ensuring that they are carried out as the dying person would wish.

IR Approved Sticker 2An instruction manual designed to provide guidance in planning end-of-life care for oneself or family members. THE NEW ART OF DYING is a guide meant to help anyone concerned about how they or their loved ones can face their death with dignity, peace of mind, and the knowledge that their wishes will be carried out even if they are not capable of asserting themselves. It is more a practical and legal guide than a spiritual one, but it does ask readers to look within to determine what they really want out of the dying process. The focus is…

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Ten of us gathered for a family style dinner at my home in Virginia Beach on April 14th 2014. It was planned around the 7th Annual National Healthcare Decisions Day (NHDD) on April 16th.

We were following in the footsteps of the work of a group of healthcare and wellness leaders who are committed to break the taboo regarding conversations about end of life. This group launched a website and project on August 24th 2013 called “Let’s Have Dinner and Talk About Death.” www.deathoverdinner.org

Here’s what set our dinner apart from others

  • There were nearly fifty years separating the youngest…
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    shutterstock_113892439There are these incredible interventions that can save our lives but making sense of them can be overwhelming when facing choices. I put together a couple of figures to make it simpler to grasp what they are about, what they do and don’t do.

    Life-supporting care is designed to keep you alive. As shown in the figure below, it includes treatments, devices and medications to keep your heart pumping (cardiopulmonary resuscitation hydration, IV nutrition, feeing tube), get rid of bacterial infections (antibiotics), and clean you body of toxins (renal dialysis). Usually, life-support treatments take place initially in the ICU and sometimes in the ER, and they then can be shifted to other settings.
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    SEINFELD ON DYING THE WAY YOU WANT
    By Diane Burnside Murdock on March 18, 2014
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    photoDo you remember the episode of Seinfeld, The Comeback, Season 8, Episode 13? It aired January of 1997. That’s 17 years ago and yet it still makes you laugh and remains very pertinent.

    Kramer is discussing with Elaine and Shellbach when he would want them to “pull the plug” on him in different situations. He appoints Elaine to be in charge of the decision-making when things stop working, for example, if he couldn’t eat but could breathe.

    It’s a kind of conversation that can happen between you and those you love.

    The discussion is what matters ……..because it’s not just about choices but fighting for the things that matter most and that you value — being with family or walking or talking or…

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    WHAT AMAZING THINGS PEOPLE SAY WHEN “TALKING ABOUT DYING”
    By Diane Burnside Murdock on February 18, 2014
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    shutterstock_92573146 (1)Yes, I write about dying….how we die in America, the choices and problems we face, what can go wrong, and how to make dying personal. I have to tell you this: I learn incredible things every time someone talks about “talking about dying.”

    We each express ourselves in different ways and the telling is fascinating to me. It’s like art — each of us looks at the same thing and then draws something completely different from anyone else’s sketch or painting.

    It’s the expression that’s so powerful.

    Here’s an example. My friend, Dimitry, asked me to tell him about The New Art of Dying and I gave him my best 15-second elevator explanation. Then, what he says next, blows my mind —he not only got what the book was about but his description seemed far better than any I’ve expressed…

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    Diane Burnside Murdock’s The New Art of Dying
    By Diane Burnside Murdock on February 11, 2014
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